44 [M4F] #Virginia - Let's take a deep breath and let's be our authentic selves, for better or worse!

Hi there! Welcome to my post.

Full disclosure, I am looking for something very specific and I'm not sure it exists.

I'm open to anyone 21 and older and all races, I am more attracted to a pretty face, a very feminine woman, so body size isn't an issue either. Nails, hair, light makeup, looking presentable, that's all important to me. No offense to the tom boys, although, if you glam it up now and then, I'm on board! I don't have a type, but when I see you I know if I'm attracted to you or not. I don't have a preference for blondes or brunettes or red heads... I do seem to like normal/athletic/curvy body types the best, but don't let that prevent you from writing me. As I said, I want something specific with someone.

I'm monogamous. No polyamory or anything here. I'm also selfish, I don't like sharing!

I'm 5'9, thin, blonde hair with gray on the sides, icy blue eyes, glasses...I'm no Brad Pitt (insert whatever hot male actor you want there) but I'm not a toad or an ugly duck either! I am an decently attractive man.

As the title says, I want and need authenticity. A lot of women my age have a hard time being authentic. I've had 2 failed relationships in the past due to neither party (myself included) being authentic in the relationship. Whether it's good, bad, or ugly, we should always be ourselves and stay true to who we are. I'm not saying don't compromise, yes, compromise is important. But don't compromise who you are as a person. If I fall in love with you, I love you for ALL of you...whether we agree or disagree, whether you've made mistakes or not, doesn't matter. I need you to be 100% you and I will do the same. Always!

Here's where I will lose 99.9% of you. I have to be with someone that is a smoker (cigarettes only, no weed), whether it's a closet smoker, social smoker, or regular smoker. Some men are attracted to women with long hair vs short, or blue eyes vs brown... I'm attracted to someone that smokes vs someone that doesn't. I myself am a closet smoker and don't smoke often, but I will say there is something appealing about sitting on the deck/porch and relaxing together, having drinks, getting into deep or fun conversation, and sharing some cigarettes together. I really enjoy that connecting time.

Being someone who loves a feminine woman, I think they way a woman holds her cigarette, the way she takes a drag, the way she holds it between her fingers as she talks and moves her hands around...it all adds to her femininity. It's very sexy and appealing to me and it's something I've fought for years and now that I'm 44, I have fully accepted that's what I want.

Some other sidebar things about me. I am not a submissive type person at all, but I believe in a true partnership. We should always discuss things together and make decisions that way. At the end of the day, if I am adamant about a certain decision, then that's what we will do. If you want to work, work. If you don't want to work, don't. If you want kids, great, if you don't, that's ok, too. I am flexible with those things. I am an open book. Ask anything you like and I'll tell it to you like it is, for better or worse.

There are just couple last items, promise! So I know you actually read this and that you're my potential future authentic person, please tell me the kind of cigarettes you smoke (Marlboro Menthol Lights or Virginia Slims, etc) and why you responded to my post. If you feel compelled, include a picture. Not mandatory right away, but let's be honest, mutual physical attraction is important. Your pic will get mine in return! Reddit CHAT only. I don't expect a ton of responses because this is so specific, I realize that. So, I will respond to anyone who sends me a response other than "hi" or "hey". Effort counts!

Have a wonderful day!