Final update 2 (I hope) AITAH for refusing to talk to my dad and my brothers after the coment they made to me?

Hi, good morning/night to everyone.

I think this is really the end.

First of all, thank you for your support.

And second, I will focus on the most important topics

1. My brother, Elijah, get into a problem: In short, he was acting inappropriately and violently toward a female friend of his (20). From what I know, it seems my brother was at this friend's apartment along with two others. My brother tried to flirt with her but her friend rejected his advances. He started yelling at her that she "got his hopes up" and that "she was a b#tch like all the others" (I'm starting to think the men in my family are fixated on that word). A friend (let's call him X) tried to calm things down, while Y (the other friend) called my brother's friend a prude. The shouting got louder and my brother yelled all sorts of obscenities at the girl, at one point he tried to force a kiss on her, but friend "X" punched my brother, starting a fight. The neighbors heard and called the police, the girl is now filing a complaint.

2. My brother Toby (my twin) moved in with his friend: This took me by surprise, honestly. I found out when we talked on the phone, and was for him from I found out about Elijah. Apparently, the tension at home had become unbearable, and Toby had been staying with a friend of his. Toby apologized for his actions and his participation, he said that he went with the flow of what happened, and that it was his group of friends who made him see what was wrong, I asked him if he knew anything (about THAT thing), which brings me to the third point.

3)Possible answer: Toby told me that Dad and my older brothers' actions were to "keep an eye on me," since they were apparently "afraid" I'd go off track. This confused me. I asked Toby if there were any signs that I had stepped out of that "line".

Please, here is the small space where I ask that you read the following carefully.

It turns out this was brewing when Toby and I were 13, right in the school year. There was a mother of a classmate (let's call her Z) who couldn't stop "worrying" about my female classmates. Apparently, at a parent-teacher conference, Z's mother couldn't stop pointing out how "affectionate" the girls in my class were with the boys, she pointed out hugs as inappropriate, gifts as signs of "wanting something more and getting it through small gestures," and (what really infuriated me) that if a girl and a boy from the same class arrived together and were late, it meant that "something happened."

Yep, you read it.

I know Z. She's the kind of classmate who screams loudly if you're eating in class or if you've said something "rude". In the eyes of teachers and parents, she was a saint, but behind closed doors? She was the very embodiment of her mother's "concerns."

These "concerns" reached my dad, who according to Toby, initially ignored them, but then started asking him (that is, Toby) to keep an eye on me.

Here I should give a little context, in the school there were two classrooms, classroom 1 was for those with an average of A+, A and -A (that is the grading system used in my school) while classroom 2 was for students with an average of B and below, in both classrooms the same thing is taught, but those in classroom 1 have more practice than theory, while in classroom 2 there is more theory than practice.

Toby and I were in classroom 2, but at 13 I moved to classroom 1 when my grades improved, there I met my best friend (with whom I now live and who became my neighbor)

According to Toby (and for which he later apologized), when I went to classroom 1, he was just telling my dad that I was always with my best friend, was I eating my lunch? Was I with him, art club? He was there with me.

This is because we rarely met in both classrooms, so whenever we crossed paths, Toby saw me with my friend (I'm going to give my friend a name, he likes Deltarune so now I'll call him Chris)

And instead of my dad talking to me, he just asked Toby for more details and try to find more.

Apparently my other two brothers also knew about the concerns, and (this is my theory) if we base it on the fact that Elijah had a friend like Y, I think Andy also got the idea that I was "very close" to Chris.

I asked Toby if they'd ever thought of talking to me about all this, but he said that, according to Dad, "If I knew they were watching me, I'd be more secretive." We talked awkwardly for a while longer; it was a three-hour call, according to my phone logs, I think the longest we'd ever talked. I said goodbye wishing him the best, he said goodbye telling me that he hopes things get better (which I doubt)

Now point 4.

4. My mom came: She arrived at my friend's house, she asked me if I already went to buy the clothes with the money she sent, I answered only a part and she offered to go with me for the last part, it was in the shoe section that we both talked. She apologized again, I asked if she knew anything about what Toby told me and she said yes, but that she didn't think it would go that far. The conversation was... weird, frustrating and somewhat painful, we both hugged near the end. It brought back bad memories of my little self clinging to my mom so she wouldn't leave. In that conversation we brought up the subject of Elijah and Andy, she will not support Elijah for what he did, in Andy's case, it seems they both talked, he left me a letter that he wrote. In my dad's case... well, that brings me to my final point.

5. My dad is hospitalized: Apparently, he and Elijah had a fight after the problem with the girl, (chronologically, the accident with the girl happened at the beginning of this month.), Toby was right to leave since apparently, the fights between my dad and Elijah got worse. Elijah didn't take what he did seriously, he went out more with his friend Y and came back late smelling of alcohol and cigarettes. Apparently, in a fight, Elijah used the fact that both Toby and I left as a weapon, saying something like "The fact that your two youngest children prefer their friends' houses than being here shows that you screwed up" and left in a huff, apparently this affected him more and Andy found him unconscious, Andy was the one who took him to the hospital and he hasn't moved from there since then, according to Andy, dad has something related to stress. I went to see him twice, we talked and I asked him about everything, he confirmed only part of the story that Toby told me, I kept the conversation calm since I didn't want to make his condition worse, I said goodbye with a hug, which he hugged me back, we stayed like that for a while until I left. The second and last time I visited him was two days ago, he told me that he planned to seek help, he told me that he and Mom would go to couples therapy first and then individual therapy to handle some problems.

To close, Andy's letter was the last thing I read (he didn't speak to me at the hospital), it was only a few paragraphs but in short, he also apologized, his version was that he and Dad didn't know how to handle things and everything got out of control, there were small fragments that made me somewhat validate Toby's version, he closed the letter with a "take care."

That's a summary. I plan to talk to a psychologist first. I don't want to burden my friend's mom with things like this. For now, I'm fine. Movie nights continue, and my problems aren't as bad. If Elijah's situation worsens, I might update, but for now, I bow and say goodbye to all of you, who gave me the support this silly teenager needed.