You can't help someone who doesn't want help, can you?

A friend of mine has been drinking himself to death for the past two years. I've known him for about 5 years and he always was a heavy drinker, but it was not as bad as it is now. Sometimes it brought the worst in him, but otherwise he was a good and thoughtful person. He always brought people together. We could talk all night long and he could follow a very deep conversation like noone else, for hours.

At some point I stopped seeing him is often as I did. For the past two years every time when I met him it felt like he was drinking all day long and he either went to bed early or was so drunk so much that he couldn't follow a simple conversation. Or worse.

We went camping not so long ago. He got so drunk he couldn't stand on his feet. He fell into a firepit. People had to drag him out. Then he fell in a ditch and coouldn't get out on his own. People didn't help him because "he's fine, that's just what he does"

I conftonted him after that, genuinely worried. We had a hour-long conversation. It went from "You don't get it, it was fun" to "You have no idea what you're talking about" to "Fuck off. You have no control over my life."

I'm no longer in contact with him. I just can't. I can't help him and he can't help himself, I get it. But it doesn't make it easier. He'll be dead in a few years if he keeps going this way. And I can't be a part of his life no more. So fucking sad.