I want to share this recent story. My paternal grandfather went into the hospital just over two weeks ago. My inactive aunt was in town and my PIMI dad was out of the country. My dad was his POA but couldn’t get back right away. My PIMI siblings also live in the area but they tend to be self centered in their own lives. Anyways he was at the hospital I work at (I’m a nurse) so I would check on him. He seemed slightly uncomfortable at first (I’m publicly removed as apostate/DA) but accepted my presence, eventually warming up and chatting, sharing stories, talking about his last wishes, etc. I could tell he wasn’t going to last long and told my father as much, he was trying to get home, my GPA said he wasn’t going to make it and just wanted to see my dad. He got moved to ICU for BP meds the next day. While I was there they wanted to give him platelets and I spoke up for his beliefs and said he can’t have those, they quickly remembered he was a jw and changed course (it was innocent not malicious as he was rapidly declining and just in discussion). I left later that evening so my siblings could to visit. My dad landed around midnight and got to the hospital around 1AM, and he passed at 5AM on a Friday morning. He was only in the hospital 3 days. My gpa’s youngest daughter (non removed apostate) was also trying to get here in time but she got in Friday evening. 

My inactive aunt asked if everyone could see their beliefs aside so we could mourn together. I of course was more than willing to do so. My dad was not apparently. I slightly overreacted and pushed too hard but I was rightfully angry and mourning too and nothing I said was wrong, just perhaps bad timing since he just lost his dad? The funeral is tomorrow at the KH and there’s a celebration of life dinner afterwards. I plan on attending both parts with my husband and child as well as my two aunts. Interactions with my dad have been limited and awkward but polite since. I also suspect my dad is/has been PIMQ/PIMA and tries to convince himself that this is “da troof “

Note* the pics were screenshots taken on the day gpa died. 

My JW grandfather died