I’m a bi guy and I literally have no idea how to interact with men. Is this normal?

I’ve basically tried and failed this past year to acknowledge and embrace my queer side. I’ve gone to gay events and bars and whatnot, the Castro neighborhood in San Francisco. It’s just felt strange to interact with men. I thought that I could just end up chatting with a guy, we’d get to know each other and then maybe we could arrange going out for coffee. That’s how it’s worked with girls anyways. However it seems guys are on a completely different wavelength.

I’ve chatted with a few men briefly and then they just make some impromptu lewd comment or casually ask “you wanna come over?” wink wink. It just feels… very “unclassy”, no offense to them. And I immediately end up losing any crumb of attraction I have to them. I’m not against hooking up but with the girls I’ve hooked up with we’ve usually established some type of substantial mental connection. We’ve teased or joked a bit, found out some things about each other. That’s what I need.

What’s hilarious is that because of this, at the gay spaces I’ve frequented, I’ve had nothing with men but success with the straight women that can frequent them. I hate to do that because I don’t want to be the “straightie” in a queer area but I can’t help it. I end up having better interactions with women.

It seems many bi guys have the opposite experience. The rave ahout how it’s so cool to be with guys because they get it and women are just too “complicated”. They have so much fun with the easy “casual sex” they can have with men. That is not me at all.