AIO, I ended my relationship after discovering my boyfriend shares an emotional, intimate Spotify playlist with a co-worker

I was with my boyfriend for nearly two years. We had a semi-long-distance relationship. About five hours apart, and usually saw each other on weekends and special occasions. Throughout our time together, I tried to be understanding and trusting despite the distance, but over time, a few things started to weigh on me.

I noticed he sometimes sent selfies of himself lying in bed to his co-workers. When I asked about it, he said it was just a casual, harmless way they shared funny or silly pictures within their group. He assured me it was normal and platonic. I wanted to trust him, but it made me uneasy and felt a bit inappropriate. I didn’t make a big deal of it, but I noted my discomfort.

My often listens without headphones. One day, out of curiosity, I looked at his Spotify account on my phone. That’s when I discovered a collaborative playlist he shares with a female co-worker. Someone in her late 40s, while we’re in our mid 20s(me) and early 30s(him). The playlist, called “Edelene” (a blend of their names) The most recent song added was 9 days ago

What caught me off guard was the playlist’s content. It’s filled with romantic, intimate, and emotional songs. About devotion, marriage, longing, and deep connection.

This didn’t feel like a casual or friendly playlist. The intimacy suggested by the song choices, the ongoing dedication, and the blended name made it feel like a private emotional space just for the two of them.

I also remembered that weeks ago, he mentioned a woman at work who’s in an open marriage and that he slept with her years ago. He said he didn’t feel guilty because it’s not his responsibility to be loyal to either of them. While I tried to be understanding because that is his past, it unsettled me.

Given everything I’ve seen and felt, I can’t help but wonder if this is the same woman, the one he shared playlist with.

When I pieced together the bed selfies likely only sent to her, the emotional playlist they share, and his past stories, it became clear to me that something was deeply wrong. Although I didn’t have direct proof of cheating, the pattern of behavior was enough to break my trust and hurt me.

I want to be clear: I’m not naive about friendships or workplace relationships. I believe coworkers can share music and jokes in a completely harmless way. And yes, almost all of the songs written in this world are about love. But this felt different. This playlist felt like a secret emotional space meant just for the two of them, something that crossed a boundary for me as his partner.

I’ve tried to be mature and rational about it, but this experience really made me reflect on trust, respect, and emotional fidelity.

Am I overreacting for feeling this way and deciding to end the relationship?

For your reference, here are some songs in the playlist.

1. Falling Like The Stars – James Arthur
2. Lost In You – Chris Gaines
3. Like Real People Do – Hozier
4. Better Together – Jack Johnson
5. The One – Kodaline
6. You Are The Reason – Calum Scott
7. I Won’t Give Up – Jason Mraz
8. Only Love – Ben Howard
9. Home – Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros
10. Lover, Come Back – City and Colour
11. Marry Me – Train
12. Die a Happy Man – Thomas Rhett
13. Bless the Broken Road – Rascal Flatts
14. From the Ground Up – Dan + Shay
15. Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran
16. God Gave Me You – Blake Shelton
17. Best Part – Daniel Caesar feat. H.E.R.
18. Adorn – Miguel
19. Electric – Alina Baraz feat. Khalid
20. Keep Your Head Up – Andy Grammer
21. Someone New – Hozier
22. Slow Dancing in a Burning Room – John Mayer
23. Hold On – Alabama Shakes
24. Crazy Love – Van Morrison
25. Come Away With Me – Norah Jones
26. Skinny Love – Bon Iver
27. The Night We Met – Lord Huron
28. Bloom – The Paper Kites
29. Home Again – Michael Kiwanuka
30. Better Man – Leon Bridges
31. Poems – Simon Joyner
32. Old Pine – Ben Howard
33. Hold You in My Arms – Ray LaMontagne
34. Winter Song – Sara Bareilles & Ingrid Michaelson
35. Love Like Ghosts – Lord Huron
36. From Eden – Hozier
37. Medicine – Daughter
38. No Witness – LP
39. Georgia – Vance Joy
40. The Stable Song – Gregory Alan Isakov
41. Stubborn Love – The Lumineers
42. Like Gold – Vance Joy
43. All I Ever Wonder – Dar Williams
44. Northern Lights – City and Colour
45. Holocene – Bon Iver
46. The A Team – Ed Sheeran
47. Breathe Me – Sia
48. Chasing Cars – Snow Patrol
49. Gravity – John Mayer
50. Make You Feel My Love – Adele