My father hates me for being the problem child

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I'm the youngest in the family and have two older brothers. I have always been misbehaving and was not a good student in high school. My parents wanted me to become an engineer, so I retook courses and started my first year of university as an Electrical Engineering student two years ago. I hardly passed all my courses in my freshman year and was never really interested in engineering.

I struggled in university and eventually was kicked out due to my low GPA. I had to take on student loans to pay for university, which I now have to pay back. My older siblings are successful because one is a doctor and the other is a Mechanical Engineer at a Fortune 500 company. I was never interested in school and would spend my time learning how to start a business, sell products, and provide services.

I have a joint bank account with my father, which was made when I was in high school, and he gets mad at me for taking risks and spending money on my business because there are lots of scammers and I will lose my money. My father hides my passport, criticizes, and emotionally blackmails me if I don't listen to what he says when I'm an adult. I was even threatened to be kicked out of the house one time by my father for a mistake I made which I don't want to disclose.

My parents are immigrants and moved to America when I was young, and they have high expectations of us. I have been insecure and anxious all my life because I feel useless and don't know how to become successful. I have big dreams but face negativity from my parents who don't believe in me. I never told my parents I was kicked out of university because they would disown me. I could easily make illegal money, but I want to start a business and provide value to society. I am feeling stuck and don't know how to move on.

Posted Aug 12, 2025, 5:33 AM UTC

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