Is it PDA?

I learnt about PDA some time ago and I'm wondering if my dad has it... I saw this short on YouTube (staged but doesn't matter) when the couple is rushing to the airport so they don't miss the flight... The guy says "quickly, get to the car before we get late" and then the girl has meltdown... After him apologizing she said, he should have said "could You please get to the car" with a smile on his face... And when he does it, she just changes completely and replies "Yes, I will happily get to the car" 🤦 I remember how my dad always taught me and my sister how we should say please, thank You, I know children have to learn manners but I think at my home it was very extreme, I don't remember many of my peers following similar rules. I couldn't say "do sth" or "please do sth" but I had to always say "could You please do sth", of course with this people pleasing tone of voice, he was always extremely sensitive about the tone of voice... I mean, when he really humiliated me and I was angry, of course still replying his stupid questions but just with anger popping up in my voice, he would get furious why I replied with this kind of voice or why my face looks so angry... This is why for example I never expected he could have autism because he recognized signs of emotions like this... I was always this weird kid at school saying always"could You please...", "thank You", even to my peers at the playground 🙈 I remember one girl genuinely trying to unteach me this, she was actually very patient 🙈 Well, over time I was so exhausted with this kind of conversations with my dad that I stopped asking him for any favor. He still complained about my face expression, tone of voice, over time I started to behave more and more stiff around him... I remember one conversation when he was complaining how bad and disgraceful daughter I am and I asked him why because I don't even ask him for any favor, and he said that that's true and for example my sister is much more entitled but at least she has the charm and knows how to wrap him around her finger but me, I don't have any charm... Well, I wanted to vent here a little bit but also this time I'm asking for genuine advice, is it PDA, is it autism or maybe it sounds like something completely different (yes, I know, looks like NPD but my dad is also very awkward, I don't think any real narcissist will allow himself to be such a milksop)... Am I maybe overreacting over something that is normal? What do You think?