My pennukaanal is over and now I’m confused,depressed and pissed at my parents

This is a follow up post to this https://www.reddit.com/r/twentieskerala/s/tWvbCiHQ8q

Me and my family(mom ,dad &elder sister ) went to her place 2 days ago . I stepped into that house without any expectations as I had a prejudice in my mind that NRI kids will be very conservative, “monna” or naive. But , when we started to talk we clicked instantly.she said she have a lot of pressure on her to get married (she’s turning 25)we had so many things in common we discussed our future career plans,intrests . She seemed very open minded with a clear overview of life person.overall the vibe was immaculate and im almost certain that I need to know about her more moreover im pretty sure that she is also keen to know about me more we talked for almost 20 minutes non stop before my sister interrupt and asked to join for the tea. We left immediately after having the tea (my dad initiated so)

HER DEMANDS

•Taller than her ✅(5’10&5’2)

•Must have good command on English ✅( her friends don’t speak malayalam)

•Willing to settle where she grew up(Europe)✅(i was ready and they made it clear prior to this function to my fam)

MY DEMANDS

•Should be a believer in faith and practice prayers ✅

•must have a professional degree ✅

•willing to work after marriage ✅

Now comes the post ceremony discussion at my home

as soon as we stepped in to my home they started to discuss to my surprise they didn’t like her I clearly told them that I like her ignoring that they started to discuss about how fat she is ( she is slightly on the obese side which I don’t mind and I’ve mentioned to parents clearly that im not really looking for any physical features before this proposal even came up) Then they rose their concern about settling abroad (which the person who introduced this proposal mentioned prior to ceremony and they were aware about it)

my family’s concerns

•we both doesn’t look good together (im more slender build and she’s little chubbier (5’3 80kg and I look little younger for my age and looks the opposite)- I don’t really care about this at all

•moving out and settling there: they’re afraid that after their time nobody will be there to look after our land and assets as im the only son - I clearly mentioned them that I don’t like to stay in India before and ive been living outside Kerala for almost a decade .once I settle outside I was planning to bring my parents also

•afraid of society judgement- that I’ve married her for the sake of getting PR(wtf)

Now comes the sad part :

That night my parents called them and informed that “we are not interested because We are not willing to send me there “ All this without asking me a single world and when I question them they’re getting angry at me on top of that with a “ninaku vidhichath vere ewdelum undaum “

Ingane anel pinne enthina avr “pennum chekanum istam ano nokanm because namuk athanu valuth ,avaranu opam jeevikan Ulle “ cliche dialogue adikne?? (Freedom kodukunna modern family)

Do I owe an apology to her? Should I reopen proceed with the alojana by convincing my parents ?? Is their reasons valid??