Dating & Being Sterilized

I think most of my life I knew I didn't want kids but would say I would adopt to make folks feel more comfortable. After lots of thinking (and a break up) this year, I know I really don't want them but may foster in the future or just volunteer with at risk youth. And if for soooome reason I change my mind, I would never want to produce one myself and would adopt, all for the many of reasons people have already posted about!

The idea of accidentally getting pregnant STRESSES me out! It is distracting with the thought while having sex (even when condom and BC is in use). I fear it if I got raped. I fear it with the horrifying way our gov is going. THUS I am considering getting a bilateral salpingectomies or tubal ligation... if anyone has a suggestion or insight on which, let me know (:

ANYWAYS - I am 27F and I do love having a partner. I want a boy friend/husband/life partner to experience life with, unfortunately (would be easier if I didn't) lol With coming to my 100% conclusion that I don't want to have kids, I'm already feel some stress about finding a partner BUT that would never changed my opinion abt kids and wouldn't be with someone who wants them... I know that in itself minimizes my pool and can increase judgment. I'll survive but it is a new realty I'm coming to terms with.

For those of you who have gotten sterilized purely as birth control and not health reasons, how have folks you've dated or were pursing reacted when you told them you're sterile by choice?

Again, I wouldn't change my choices solely on people's opinions or anything like that... maybe I'm just prepping myself for potentially future interactions lol I also would NEVER date someone if they were a dick when I told them I don't got any tubes! If anything, it's a early warning to run