40 [M4F] #Online #EST and open to in person - Looking for a good girl and good friend

In that primal moment with a sub, there is a sense of control I do not experience elsewhere in life. The psychology of BDSM and kink is fascinating to me. I can tap into parts of me I didn't know consciously. What a feeling it is to surprise yourself at any age let alone one that's starting to feel older like mine.

I am a natural caregiver. In the bedroom, in the world, in friendships, relationships, dynamics, more. I embrace that role and the purpose it gives me. I am a total dad- literally and figuratively. I got the bod, the jokes, the worries and the care to prove it. And before you jump to any conclusions, I am divorced so there's no sneaking around here. And I do have quite a bit of free time on my own.

I hold no expectations but I am open to many possibilities. So there is no concrete “what I'm looking for” other than an honest connection. This isn't my first time and I'm not one to jump straight into anything. And I don't fully enjoy any type of sexual relationship without the feeling that you're also a friend. That said, I certainly can enjoy flirting and sharing fun things as I get to know someone.

If you respond, tell me a secret. Or tell me why you're here. Or just tell me anything at all as long as it's true.