(M4F) 42, Virginia, East Coast, I feel like a roommate and want a chat partner/maybe more

So let's do this right and just say up front that I am married, this would be completely secret and I have absolutely no intention of changing my circumstances or yours....now that we got that out of the way I'll get to it.

I have found myself in a marriage where I try my best and put in the effort, show affection, make advances for intimacy and yet I am shut down more often than not. It seems like my wife's sex drive took a nose dive and confronting her about it only partially resolves things for a month or so and then she is right back to playing video games with friends instead of trying to be intimate on a Friday night. I feel like I'm living with a roommate and not a significant other most of the time and it wears on me.

"Why are you still with her?" Oh, good question, we still have fun doing activities together but its more like platonic fun and there is the matter of also having 2 kids together and well, having kids definitely didnt make things easier but I'm going to be there for the kiddos whenever they need.

About me: I am the guy who puts on a serious face for work, but outside of that I try to be carefree as much as possible, still a kid at heart but thats part of what makes me fun. I work in an engineering field, but Im also very artistic (maybe I'll show you a drawing sometime) , I enjoy the outdoors and try to find activities that keep me out in the sun, especially if there is a beach or a body of water involved. Im 42, 6'-1" tall, avg shape, red beard, buzzed head .

You: I mean, hopefully you have a good sense of humor, can actively participate in a conversation, maybe in a similar situation as I am in, maybe you just like talking with married guys, idk. You dont have to be perfect because Im definitely not. Be able to talk about anything from your day, to fun movies or shows, music, things that have bothered you, your relationship, anything you need to vent or even a spicy chat.

If any of this sounds appealing to you then send me a dm, I respond to anyone and will show you the courtesy of at least chatting for a while to see if we are a good match for chatting. So stop waiting and reach out already.