54 [M4F] #Denver, Colorado Man looking for a Woman to slay with

If you happen to be a single woman in the Denver metro and can honestly find significant overlap with what follows below, please reach out.

I am a fit, healthy, Gen X man, 54, 5'11", 170#, the grey hairs won yet they remain on my head. Very blue eyes, fair complexion, Nordic origins. I am a professional, divorced going on 4 years, dating off and on the past couple. I work from home, live in central Denver, have a therapist, and friends who tolerate (love) me, I drink socially and lightly. I steer clear of hard drugs but have teen experiences that could be cringe to some while amatuer to others. I'm cautious with externals interacting with my chemistry, prescribed or not. I don't self medicate and accept that pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. I care about keeping myself physically capable to live and enjoy life. I am not sedentary. I am responsible and open to new experiences. Not arrogant enough to be hot, but I get lascivious looks from women and men.

Politically I am homeless rather than apolitical. I cannot abide either party. I distrust most media, corporate and social. I am not a fan of the "victim olympics" or the religious authoritarians. Nevertheless, I maintain friendships with all types of people because I value individuals. I was a punk rocker in the 80s so I still wear Doc Martens, now with a regular haircut and clean cut look.

Dating and my controversial view: those behind the modern dating apps should be tried and convicted for crimes against humanity. They have commoditized and gamified our deepest human need, to connect with another person. Enriching themselves by creating a soul wounding environment that enables predators is deeply discouraging.

I am fighting jadedness as I have met a lot of adult women behaving like teenagers, or who act like the new guy pay should for the sins of their last guy. My first thought is always "who am I choosing? because the common denominator is me." Yet, many of my social group and closest friends are adult women, and I see much of the same. I bring this up because I am not into dating being adversarial or a game of who manipulates who first. Come at me with an acknowledgment that we've been disappointed but we don't have to take it out on another person. Have a genuine wish to be authentic and see if we connect. I do.

I am not a "nice guy". But I am a good man.

My past-times: I like art events, drag shows, independent movies, hot yoga classes, rollerskating at Tracks, bicyle social groups where we take over the streets in the evening. My fav venues are: Sante Fe Arts District, Mission Ballroom, The Oriental Theater, the DAM, and the MCA. I do not golf, ski, or watch any spectator sports. I'd find it a major bonus if you also know who these authors and artists are: Esther Perel, Dan Savage, Brene Brown, Haruki Murakami, Odesza, M83.

Lets get really taboo and dispense with the fiction that sex isn't important. I am looking for someone who shares the view that if we can't talk about it honestly and openly in advance, then we shouldn't be doing it. I am one who tests routinely, shares my historical results, and is snipped. I do not say "clean", I claim fortunate because I have not had any STIs and I attribute this to being cautious with a helping of luck. Talking about it also includes the vulnerability of sharing what turns us on.

I am looking for adventure with someone. I like vanilla AND kinky and I am done apologizing for either of them as if they must be exclusive. I do NOT use others or treat a human being as a thing. The naughty summary would be I'm an egalitarian switch interested in power exchange and gender play with strong aversions to violence, injury, degradation, misogyny and misandry. I am kink aware, shaming avoidant, and care about my partner's pleasure WITH connection as the result. I am all in sharing fantasies, toys, accessories, adventures. I think drag and crossdressing is hot. And I can slay. I am 5'11" without heels.

I am not ENM or polyamorous. There is a possessiveness in my romantic inclination. I want to possess and be possessed if that makes sense? My attachment style was avoidant with a lot of work to establish secure. My social circles include people who are ENM as well as LGBTQ and I enjoy kink domains and events. I am comfortable in them, I receive interest. But my heart wants what my heart wants and just like the vanilla apps, I don't fit in. I want someone to fly our freak flags together on the same pole and we can take turns as to whose is on top.

TLDR I am a single, articulate, available man, looking for a single, articulate, available woman; where our values, wants, desires, efforts, and standards fit well together for the long term. Read that again, single looking for single.