If you could do your first time, what would you do differently

One of my friends said he was so focused on ‘lasting long enough’ during his first time that he barely paid attention to his partner. Spoiler: he didn’t last long, and it ended before he could even relax. At the time, he felt embarrassed, but later he realized most people don’t actually care about timing that much. What matters more is connection and comfort, not the stopwatch in your head.