How do you handle this one?

Historically when husband drinks too much his personality changes.. He's more aggressive, said things he doesn't mean, he comes home late, he drives... Irs happened so many times over the last 15 years. Has been better in recent years. But still happens so it's still ALWAYS a worry for me. Just a month ago he drank too much a drove 25 miles home.

So now he hates when I talk w him before events, or before he goes out, about the drinking. Says I'm treating him like a child. Gets very angry.

Just now on family vacay we're all getting ready to go to dinner. He decides to go down to bar "watch TV" while we get ready and I say to him please don't drink much. He gets mad goes on and on about me treating him like a child and then said I hate you, I hate you when you do this.. In front of our kids.

I'm now stuck.. I have to try to make the vacay nice for the kids. I refuse to talk w him about this.. Bc it won't be good..and there's no privacy to do so.

So somehow I have to find my own peace and salvage what I can. But how? I'm feeling so defeated.