Too picky or bad dating profile? Observation
I opened Bumble today and found a guy named Ray in my Likes. He's 47. I'm in my mid-50s but he's in my age range.
Here's what his profile said,
"Damn I hate this place! Do I have to pay to get a like on this app? I know I'm not a 10, but I'd like to think I'm a 7 or a hard 6! I'm a dope dude with a 10 personality. Chat with me and find out!"
If I ignore the fact that he's got a beard and lists himself as Conservative (both are reasons I swipe left), his intro is off putting. The negativity and the word "dope" along with numerical ranking is a turn off. Moving to the pictures ...
- First pic is a mediocre selfie where you can see up his nose. He's also wearing a hat.
- Second picture, I'm not really sure what's going on but he's upside down and flipping the camera off.
- Third picture is another bad up-the-nose selfie. It's the only pic where he's not wearing a hat.
- Fourth pic in a bowling alley. It's not horrible but it's far enough away you can't really see his face well.
- Fifth pic he's pointing to his friend who is drinking. Looks like a party pic.
- Last pic, he's got his tongue out and flipping the camera off with both hands in a bowling alley.
He's 6'1 so he can't blame height preferences on his lack of matches. He considers himself a 6 or a 7 so he thinks he's slightly better looking than the average guy and he's complaining about not getting matches. His job title, Project Mgr Construction; he probably earns a decent living. No education listed so that probably means he does not have a degree -- this would be a negative to some women, myself included but lots of women don't care.
I'm guessing he thinks he has a great profile. In some ways, I agree with him. He's showing his personality. For the right woman, she will think think he's funny, not classless and possibly swipe right assuming she likes facial hair and is Conservative or ok with that, if she can look past his intro. But, he wants swipes per his intro and his pictures and intro are not going to appeal to the majority of women.
He probably thinks women only swipe on 10s and that's why he's not getting swiped on but that's not it. He's not bad looking but his profile is REALLY BAD. He's also not reading the profiles of the women he swipes on because if he did, he would know that he and I are definitely not a match. If he put some decent pictures where you could clearly see his face, not selfies, at least a couple without a hat, no flipping the camera off, ditch the party looking pics, and write something positive and friendly for an intro, I bet this guy would get swipes.
Posted Aug 23, 2025, 10:57 PM UTC