My dad used “he” pronouns for me for the first time today.

Back story: my parents are extremely transphobic >!Physical and verbal attacks!<. I have been out to them for 8 years and been on T for almost 4 years and cis passing/stealth for 3 years. They told me they’d never use he/him for me, and I’ve never expected them to. I’m just glad they stopped physically attacking me and gagging when they see me 😅

Today I ran to my parents to pick up some college paperwork that got sent there. My dad is trying to be more chill (he isn’t outwardly aggressively transphobic the past 6 months, just doesn’t respect me as a man) and asked me to have a drink and chat. He is the “leave me alone and I’ll leave you alone” conservative and my mom is very much American alt right. My mom, dad and I were talking and my dad, after an hour or so of talking, said: “oh he can just do….”

My mom gave him the dirtiest look. He’s definitely getting his ear chewed off rn, now that I’ve left.

I tried to ignore the pronouns he used so my mom wouldn’t go off on us in the living room. My dad looked very panicked, but just kept pushing with the conversation and switched back to she/her/daughter for the rest of the conversation

I know this may not seem “celebratory” for some people here, but this is huge for my dad. Like they are extremely against trans people. The only reason they keep me in their life is so they can constantly try and convince me to detransition. But my dad finally used the right pronouns. I know it’s not out of respect for me as a man, and more about the fact that I literally pass as a cis man in every way and instincts make people use “he/him” by how I look alone, thankfully. But maybe now that the slip has happened, my dad will grow some balls and tell my mom to pull it together. Tell her how stupid they look referring to me as a woman.