My relationship with mom

So, I'm 24 yo woman and I live with my mom. We moved away from our homecountry for a better future. We stay together to help each other. I love my mum and she loves me and we are pretty close and even though our relationship had ups and downs, we always pushed through and got close, howewver, there are a few things that bother me about her and I don't know how to feel because on one hand I get her but on the other hand it frustrates me. I love when my parents are affectionate towards me, but sometimes I get mad when she speaks in a baby voice to me like we used to do when I was a child. She does this sometimes. Another thing is her telling me to get home when I go for walks in the evening time and this is what bothers me a bit because while I get it from a womanly perspective that she is afraid of smth bad happening to me, I also go to places where there are streetlights or that are closer to home and I don't stay past 22 as I am also avoiding the streets at nightime. I also either call her to pick me up or go home by the help of an electric scooter. Is this normal or am I exaggerating? I get her as well tbh as a woman and from a mother's perspective but I also wanna be treated like an adult. She used to call me about 5 to 10 times when I was out with my ex friends. I couldn't always stay on the phone with her and she'd be upset but then I established a boundary with her that it's okay for her to call me once or twice 'cause 10 times was a bit too much for me when I was out with my friends as I was always announcing her, before going out, who I'm going out with and where. Now she doesnt do this anymore but yesterday when I was out I was in the park that was next to our home (like 2 min away) and she called me to come home. It was 21. Omw home saw three 14 yo coming out of the apartment complex and I was a bit frustrated after. What do you think of this and how can I make her understand that it bothers me? Also any advice on how to be independent? I live in the UK and I am a student and for the past 3 years it's been hard for me to find part time jobs. I only had two jobs so far and now I do food delivery. I need a stable job that could pay me good so I'd be able to move and be independent. Thank you.

Posted Aug 31, 2025, 12:10 AM UTC

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