struggling with comphet?

i found out i was bi when i was in middle school, so i’ve never been confused or torn with my attraction towards women. i have, on the other hand, struggled with trying to figure out if i actually do like men. i’m asking this subreddit to see if any lesbians have dealt with comphet, and could maybe share their personal stories and experiences as well as give me some advice on mine.

with most of the men i’ve liked or talked too, i kind of chicken out when things start to actually get serious. i know this could just be commitment issues or an avoidant attachment style, but ive honestly never had this happen with women. they just seem a lot easier to connect with on a romantic level than men are

i know i have to be attracted to men in some way, as i have liked obtainable men (not just celebrities or fictional characters). and even getting into the more sexual aspect, straight porn as the same effect as lesbian/wlw videos. i could also honestly see myself having sex with a man (never have) and enjoying it to an extent. sometimes it feel like im emotionally a lesbian but sexually bi

please help, ive been struggling with this for the past year or so