Why is it so scary to meet irl?

I understand woman have to be safe, I respect that. Meeting someone from online is scary, not just for the woman either. There is many things you can do to be safe. Meet at a public business, get their id, send a picture to a friend or save it on your phone, share your location, verify them with different forms of social media (make sure it adds up) and probably many more ways.

We could also discuss that meeting at someone’s house might make your self feel safer. Ring cameras, drop the location to a friend, ask a neighbor, check the house on Zillow or from google maps, have alarms set on your phone to bail. Maybe meeting in public like a shopping mall, restaurant, bar, or coffee shop.

So online dating, online hooking up, whatever you want to call it, it’s all the same, you can try and justify it but it’s all the same. Thats about the only way to really meet people. Now I know people are at different stages in life, mentally and emotionally. One thing that is true Everyone is looking for that spark, vibe, connection, that’s called love!! That’s the reason people call “sex” making love, it’s just that, it is love. Sometimes people are good at sharing it and some at feeling it. Sometimes both people feel it and share it, sometimes only one of them might feel it and share it, sometimes neither one can feel it but they are trying to share the love! I know sometimes sex is used for bad (almost anything can be).

Now with the meeting, why would you waste your time to chat and learn about someone and not meet them? Why would you waste your emotions and not meet? Why not meet someone? You talk online for how long, a day, a week, a month, longer! why? is there a certain amount of time ? Are you looking for them to say or do something special? Are you judging them socially, economically, trying to find the right one mate, it’s so much easier to learn and understand someone in person!

If you can meet, as in your local to each other, then why wait? Tell me, I don’t understand it. With Me, I want to meet as soon as possible, time is money, I don’t want to waste yours or mine. So, we go out, you can find out in 20 secs of seeing them and 1st meeting them. if you are going want to put in the time and effort to find that, let’s say spark.

Maybe we have one or two days before we really start to understand if they are the right one for me. Some people take a year some take 15 years before they find something, and sometimes they don’t love them anymore, some people never find a reason not to keep love them.

Strangers, wtf, why that excuse? Everyone at the Bar, your schools, your neighbors! Everyone was a stranger at one time with you, you don’t know 7 billion people in this world!! But we should be trying to know them, the more you know, the safer you are! The more you understand people. You do get to know the good ones and of course the bad ones too.

Crazy’s, yes, a lot of them out there, almost everyone in the society and at some time, have been crazy. the more peolpe you know the easier it is to find them, as well as to see and identify them. We are all a little bit crazy, some more than others, and some crazy is scary to some and others find it a big attraction. We all are trying to find our weird human!

We can give a lot of love, all of us!! Some already have it but are looking for more, some don’t have it at all and are looking desperately for it, some have had it and are scared of finding it but we all need to feel it and give it, some love long and some love short, some love one and some love more. I don’t care how racists or sexist or what ever you feel, put in the right situation, with almost any person love can prevail, everyone can find an attraction but with some it is stronger and easier.