how do i know if im being desperate?

this is a question i probably know the answer to, but im just not sure. socially between all my friends, im the DUFF (designated ugly fat friend). No men ever come up to me, its mostly me trying to talk and taking the hint that they’re more interested in my friends. I’ve asked my friends if they could set me up with someone (this is normal between us all) and they usually say yes but i know they won’t because they know the answer if they were to ask. I feel like i’ve centered around trying to get people to take interest in me besides for my body. i just have to know if im truly being desperate because i honestly don’t know.