How to fix this?

What do I do? Concerned about having interests in health, wellness, mindfulness, being caring, attractive, and covering things in all ways to be as hot and sexy as possible not just in the relationship I am in with the girl I care about, though also in life. It just basically makes everything better, though at this time it is like I have been labeled in some of these areas as being too effeminate. I really don't like it. Of course I can work on my voice, though will have to really have a mind of it to work on it. I want to have a relationship people are crazy about, let alone love having me around, though at the same time it is complicated because there are little things here and there, some things are not enough, while other things are too much, that we are trying to find the correct balance to progress parts of the relationship quickly to see that it were possible to have an identity adjustment, while working towards longer term perfect goals so that it is possible to see the relationship is there today, so that it is possible for us to find things, though it is complicated because there appears to be rules in place that I have to follow and things to be guided by, stictly, stringently, and then I do not know if it is possible or how to best do this. It is complicated the relationship to consider though as the relationship has continued it is like there are things for us to consider and appreciate that may be a process. I am still trying to figure out how it may be possible for us to do this quickly and efficiently, that nets the results the both of us want. How can I adjust my lifestyle for this to see the most results quickly. Once again, it is mostly for her, though will totally help like everywhere.

Any advice is appreciated, thank you.