Confused and need some input

So I’m 99% sure my mother is a narcissist. My therapist is the one that brought it up. My mom says she got “tested” for it because she was suspecting she was a narc at one point but she’s “not”. I’ve heard it’s kind of impossible for someone to think they’re a narc if they are actually a narc, but here’s what confuses me. She love bombs me and says she’s proud but then shows DIRECT symptoms of being a narc. Always putting me down, always saying I’m not doing enough for her or I’m “disrespectful and selfish” for living my life lol. But she does admit when she’s wrong. At least it seems like that. But I just can’t forgive her. She always recants her apologies or explains them away or BLAMES ME. And to be fair I can’t be healthy around her because she’s so triggering. She tells me to “get over” my childhood trauma because it “wasn’t that bad”, and she forgives her physically abusive parents and is like mad at me for not letting them and her into my life. I’m just rambling and venting, there’s so much more, but I just can’t determine if I’m dealing with a narc. She does stuff for other people and helps them. She’s helped me too financially but always seems to throw everything in my face. Idk what to do. We’re currently no contact but it’s stressing me out.