Set a boundary with my husband, now he’s pushing a different one

A few days ago I made a post about my husband “not getting” what consent means and touching my breasts whenever he had a chance. I had a serious talk with him, and he seemed to understand and agreed to stop doing it when I don’t want him to. So far, he has respected it

But now he’s doing something new, and I just don’t understand his behavior. When he kisses me, he randomly sticks his tongue in my mouth without any buildup or warning. For example, we’ll just be sitting together talking, and he suddenly grabs my head and kisses me with his tongue.

I told him, “Hey, we’re not making out right now. Save that for later when we’re having sex, not now!” He replied, “What’s the problem? That’s how I like to kiss you.” I explained that I like that kind of kissing when we’re making out, not when we’re just chilling, drinking tea, or whatever. Then he said, “It’s always only the way you like it,” as if I’m controlling how he has to kiss me.

This happened right after we established the “no touching breasts randomly” rule, a few days ago. Today, he did it again — kissed me with his tongue out of nowhere — and I backed away and reminded him: “Save that for later. I already told you I don’t like that without a little warm-up.” He said, “Okay, I won’t touch you anymore if you don’t want it.” I told him not to go to the other extreme, I love little kisses on the cheek or lips, just not deep kisses out of nowhere. But he insisted, “That’s the way I like to kiss, not the way you like…”

A few minutes later, he was leaving for work. I was at my laptop, ready to work from home. As usual, he came to give me a goodbye kiss — but again stuck his tongue in my mouth. I reminded him, “I told you I don’t like this,” and he said, “There’s no way to make you happy,” then left.

I’m pretty sure he did it just to piss me off. Why is he acting like this? Is there any hope for me with this man?

Thanks for your feedback as always.