I noticed I finally started dreaming about other people.

HLM 40, but I think "HLM" only in comparison to my LLF....

Usual story about a wife loosing interest into sex years ago.

Nowadays it happens once a few months. She doesnt initate, but sometimes she mentions something like "'we should again...." or "maybe we have time this weekend.." But then she doesnt follow up on it, and also is (9 out of 10 times) not in the mood the next weekend. Weekend is the only time it can even happen, cause for her sex only can happen if "not too tired", "not too engerized", "no to do left for today", "no todo for tommorow swirling around in her brain" and so on.

Also she knows I suffer and think about it daily (or more than that) when it has been 2 weeks or more, but she doesnt seem to be able to change.

I dont want to talk about this, that topic has been discussed to death here.

I want to talk about that recently I noticed I started dreaming about a good looking woman at work, , about a good looking good friend. Am I really to blame for that thoughts? (I wouldnt act on it). Too be honest, without marriage, a kid and most of the money pushed into a house that cant be selled (parents also living there) I would end the relationship. It is not that I dont like her anymore, it is just that I feel a huge hole inside my, that she cant or wont fill.