iwtl how to stop thinking of romance

I think I'm way too fixated on romance and love. Everytime I meet someone, my instant intrusive thoughts are: "does this person have feelings for me?" "do I have feelings for them?" "what would it be like to [insert romantic gesture] with them?". How do I stop this? I feel like it's ruining my relationships and I really REALLY want authentic friendships with people. It is also going to ruin my perception of true love in the future.