I am non binary// genderfluid, 32yo, hard they them. Been out since around 2016. I get she/her’d by most customers at my job, which I try to brush off since I am aware Im in a more femme presenting phase atm. But coupled with these other moments described below, I’ve been feeling kind of unseen and sad about how ppl are labeling me. 

I recently went to visit my parents and dad’s family, who are generally accepting. However my dad still does not get my pronouns right most of the time. He’s known for about 6 years and it feels like he should have practiced it enough to get it right by now. My mom is much better with my pronouns, which I am grateful for. My other relatives know Im non binary but they mostly forget the right pronouns. 

I have also been dating someone (m36) with a kid (5yo) for the first time and been slowly introducing myself to his kid. It’s the first time I’ve dated someone with a child so we are figuring out how to teach him about pronouns, as he hasn’t been around any non binary ppl yet. For now I feel he can just call me whatever. But I also think we can refer to me as they them with the kid and I think he will figure it out. His dad thinks using my pronouns might confuse him. I think it’s something we will talk about more as a couple but Im not really sure how to go about it either. My bf’s kid seems to already have a bit of a gender complex- thinks pink and unicorns are for girls for example. The kid is with his mom more often, who is more on the traditional side, so probably not teaching him about different types of genders.

Feeling a little unseen lately