How do I fix my "Bitch eating crackers" situation?

I have a colleague—let’s call her Jolene—who drives. me. bonkers. It’s gotten to the point where everything she does feels like a [“bitch eating crackers”](https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/bitch_eating_crackers#:~:text=bitch%20eating%20crackers%20(plural%20bitches,makes%20one%20angry%20or%20annoyed.) scenario. I know a lot of this comes from frustration with her lack of output. Everyone else on our team seems to be running circles around her in terms of productivity, and it’s demoralizing to watch how “hard” she works just to get… very little done.

Some examples of her behavior:

• Projects take twice as long. Whenever I partner with her, I have to double my timeline. She needs endless meetings, constant handholding with drafts and content, and repeats herself so much that it’s impossible to wrap up a conversation.
• She catastrophizes. If anything goes wrong her go-to comments are “this tool is horrible,” “this project is doomed,” or “this is definitely not the best setup I’ve ever been involved in.” Most recently, at a team event where we were giving away simple refreshments, she declared the whole thing was “kind of a disaster” and “what a fiasco” just because the weather changed last minute and we were handing out cold refreshments instead of hot ones. My thought was: people are still getting something free and fun—why make it a crisis? But the negativity throughout the event was exhausting.
• Backup imbalance. She’s always the first to say she needs extra help but the last to volunteer for anyone else’s events.
• “Busy” posturing. She constantly talks about how overloaded she is, but her calendar doesn’t reflect it. She blocks 30 minutes before and after every event “to travel,” even though we rarely need to move more than a 10-minute walk away. Meanwhile, she brags about her event count, which is half of mine.
• Conversation hijacking. She inserts herself into discussions that don’t involve her, overexplains everything, repeats herself endlessly, and makes it impossible to escape.
• Poor customer interactions. A big part of our work is connecting with customers, and watching her do it is cringeworthy. She slips into overly academic, condescending tones and claims she has to “dress down” on those days to relate to them. The rest of us manage just fine without the costume change.

At this point, I’m really struggling to work with her, and I need a sense-check: are these just annoying habits I should learn to ignore, or are they worth raising with my manager? I haven’t brought this up yet because it feels petty, and it doesn’t always impact my own work. But I’m finding it harder and harder to want to work with her in any way. Do you (or readers) have any advice on how to either reframe this so it bothers me less, or how to decide if it’s worth bringing up with our manager? Or her? Help!