What turns you on the most in an HR? The sexual stuff or the non-sexual?

Look, I enjoy a sex scene (or multiple!) in an HR (that was one of the reasons I picked up HRs; to get over my trauma from my multiple SA experiences and open myself to the idea of physical intimacy with someone).

However! I realised that it's the emotional aspects (particularly angst, mutual pining) that tend to turn me on a lot more than an actual sex scene. I wouldn't be surprised if the closed door romances (or those with just a kiss at the end) have made me feel more physical things than one with multiple open door stuff.

Again, not saying that sex scenes don't turn me on at all because they definitely do, but I think it's certain emotional parts that turn me on the most in an HR. Want to know your opinions on the same!

P.S. I know my question might alienate those who don't feel any sexual attraction in general, so please forgive me; it's not my intention to exclude anyone from this discussion. If you have anything to share please do :)