Advice with first time

Hi all! ( I’m a pretty young gay guy in my 20’s) I recently bought a toy ( dildo to be exact ) and I’m a virgin, so anyway I bought this for use as training in a sense for when I meet the right person and the time comes. It was very hard to angle it tbh and when I tried inserting it, it felt like my buttcrack was being split/spread wide open. I used lots of lube and I did use 1 and 2 fingers beforehand ( didn’t help nor did it feel good ) any advice? I gave up midway