my parents took around 1k from me

at my 15th birthday, i had a huge birthday party. i had all my family and extended family over. i come from a cultured background so if you know how many family members we have, you know. i had around 100 people.

i got so many cards so when i got home, me and my parents opened up all the cards. in the cards, i got money. cash. the money added up to around 1.3k or 1.5k. i can’t really remember as it was 3 years ago. i wanted to use it. who wouldn’t? it’s so much money. but my dad said no and that he would put it in a bank account for me.

i was upset but i got over it because im thinking i’ll just get it when i’m 18. im 18 in a few weeks. i asked my mum where that money was. as it wasn’t in my bank account that i have currently because in the uk, you have a child trust fund that you get automatically when you’re born and your parents can put money it whenever they want. so in that child trust fund i have around £500.

my mum has always dodged the question when i asked her where that money is. so i asked her today and that i want the real answer. turns out, they spent the money. all £1000 of it. every single penny.

im especially upset now because i’m planning on going to university outside of london so i need as much money as i can get. and that money from my 15th could help me tremendously. also my brother just had his 15th. they let him keep the money he got and actually let him spend it, on whatever he wanted. theres a clear difference between how they treat my brother and me.

i don’t really know what to do because my mum has always brought up the fact that i should pay them back for what they did for me. and i have always responded that it was their job to do what they did for me. they chose to be parents, i never chose to come here. their job was to put food in my mouth, to put a roof over my head, to put clothes on my back and to give me as much as they possibly can. but they don’t understand it.

if anyone has any advice on how to go about this and ask for the money in a respectful way, please help me.