AITAH for telling my friend I won’t be here when they visit?

So I (30F) free up in Florida but now live in California. A friend of mine (31M) told me he wants to come visit around Thanksgiving time. After he sent that message, he sent another one saying can I stay with you? I read the second message at work and did not see the first one about thanksgiving since it was on Instagram and I just didn’t notice since I was very busy. So I sent him a long message detailing where he could stay. He said great, I’ll get tickets and let you know by the end of the week.

Two hours after he sent that, before I could even read that message, he sends me a screenshot of the tickets. I then realize it’s during thanksgiving and I go to LA with my husbands family every year to see his 102 year old grandmother. So now I’m upset because my friend booked the trip without confirming dates first. He just did it so fast and I didn’t have time to plan anything. So AITAH for not wanting to stay here for thanksgiving with my friend instead of going with my husband like I do every year? I love my friend but I rather spend a holiday with my actual husband and unfortunately my husband can’t stay because his family needs to see grandma before she passes.