interested in chatting with unfaithful females / wives

Just found out my wife after being together for about 10 years ahs been having an affair. We are going through the reconciliation process but I am lost and confused. This took me completely by surprise we have had no major issues until now. I was blindsided. I don't want to give out too many details publicly. DM me for more information. I'm interested in hearing why. What was going on in your head. not interested in negative support as we have decided to repair the marriage. I am open to red flags based off her current actions.