My girlfriend of 6 months is on the spectrum and I realize how annoyingly neurotypical I am.

I make sarcastic jokes and banter a lot, which people can instinctively pick up on as not being serious. The words coming out of my mouth, I don't take really seriously and I just say stuff in passing that other people don't take seriously as well.

I did not realize how infuriating this is for someone that is neurodivergent. She takes everything I say quite literally and trusts every single word I say as how I actually feel when this is absolutely not the case.

The other day I just said "oh yeah we're moving the stuff to the place at 4pm right?" and she got so caught up in the word "we" and started getting stressed out and melting down because I was the one she asked to move the stuff (as in I was supposed to do it alone). I didn't LITERALLY mean We as in the both of us..... it's just like... We as a group?? idk?

l understand where she's coming from but also I've realized slowly and slowly that I have to be... not exactly careful, but more literal with my speech and how I talk just so it doesn't make her misunderstand me. I'm not mad at her at all, but I can't help but feel like it must be really frustrating to want to take everything literally and trust all my words but just the way I speak is pretty figurative. I've talked to her about this and she says that's how a relationship should be and I don't disagree at all, it just seems like the way I talk triggers her often.

Not sure what to do.