I don’t actually believe in body positivity or fat acceptance, I just act like I do because it serves me when dating.

I’m someone that prefers a fat woman because I think fat is sexy and looks good. I don’t mean just a little fat, I mean anywhere from 200 pounds to even over 400 pounds. However, I am well aware of the health risks associated with that level of obesity, with issues ranging from minor to severe chronic disease and premature death. I therefore don’t think it would be appropriate to convince someone that is fat but wants to lose weight and improve their health not to, since that should be their right to improve their health. At the same time, I don’t want to end up with someone that is initially fat and attractive who then decides to lose a lot of weight.

Enter the fat activist/fat influencer. They’re often very fat already, in the mid to upper range that I consider most attractive. They often have fringe beliefs like weight loss is impossible or unethical, that it is healthy to be highly obese, and that their issues are due to fatphobia or misdiagnosis, not their size. They believe fat people should feel no shame in indulging in high calorie treats and that exercise is purely optional. These aren’t made up figures, for example think of @mustbemichela or @tessholliday or @emma.arletta on instagram social media.

I wouldn’t say most fat women fall into this category, it’s definitely a minority that believe these things. However, someone with these beliefs is ideal for me as they are likely very large and very unlikely to lose weight, and all without any input from me. Hence, my objective is just to present myself in a way that aligns with their worldview, with statements about fat acceptance, fat liberation, and body positivity. Just by espousing those values, I’ve found that I attract that subset of fat women much more so than the majority who are fat but aware and working on improving their health.