Are my parents’ rules and behavior normal or am I overreacting?

I’m 17 (f) and on vacation with my parents and my 13 y/o sister. My parents have always been strict, but this trip has really shown me how controlling they are.

Yesterday my sister and I met two guys at the resort hotel. We wanted to spend some time with them since they were leaving the next day. They kept video calling us 4–5 times in just a few hours while we were hanging out with the boys (we were never at remote places with them) , showed up twice, and demanded we be in our room by midnight.

Today, they went into the city and called us multiple times while we were just at the hotel. When they got back, my mom questioned my sister behind my back about whether I was the one who “insisted” on staying at the hotel. My mom is also way closer with my sister, takes photos with her, walks next to her, and I feel like I’m just tagging along.

At dinner, I wasn’t feeling well (I’ve been struggling with eating lately). My mom noticed, asked me what was wrong, and when I said “I’m fine” (maybe in a flat tone), she started arguing with me. I eventually left the table with my sister. Later, when we were just sitting in the lobby playing a game on my phone, my dad tried to kiss me on the head. I didn’t push him away, but I tilted my head slightly because his kiss landed on my bangs and blocked my vision. My parents got angry about my “reaction,” scolded us loudly in the middle of the hotel lobby (with strangers watching), and ordered us to go back to the room.

This feels like a pattern: constant control, checking on us, calling, humiliating us in public, and acting like any small thing is “disrespect.” My mom has even called us “assholes” just for being a little late to dinner.

They’ve always said, “If you don’t give us a reason not to trust you, we’ll give you more freedom.” I’ve never broken their trust, not once. But nothing has changed.

Do you guys think that this is a normal way of treating a 17 year old?? Or am I just overreacting??