Edging vs jerking

Ever since I got married it feels like as time goes by I lose interest in actually finishing myself off by jerking. Not that my husband makes me feel bad for masturbating, I know he does and he knows I still stroke more like it feels like a waste of a load that I could fill my him up with, however I feel like I've instead essentially got more and more into edging, like on our days off I will jerk but only to the point of leaking and then stop. Is this a common thing for guys in relationships? Thanks for your time.