37 [F4M] #Online #UK Intelligent Kinky Masochist Looks For Her Caring (But Extreme) Sadist

If you don't enjoy a good long read, we're not a match - this helps filter us both. But for the right person, this will be an interesting challenge. 😈

I'm looking for ONE specific person with extremely high standards, and I'm patient enough to wait.

About Me:

Physically: Red-brunette (currently dyed red), blue eyes, 5'6", curvy/BBW UK size 16. Best feature is probably my bum. Style varies from emo/goth to flirty dresses to casual leggings. Happy to exchange photos, and I've never had any complaints. 😉

Mentally: Very high IQ with deep interests in history, psychology, science, languages, politics. Love chess, puzzles, random internet rabbit holes. Also love gaming (strategy, RPGs, even Roblox with my son). Also love swimming, films, being outside in nature, especially the coast.

Preferences: Cats over dogs. Metal/prog metal/goth/gaming music. Moderate-left politics. Dark humor all the way to fart jokes. 😂 Cheese over chocolate. Opinionated about everything, but happy to learn a new side to things. And emotional intelligence is a must.

What I Need:

Physically: Tall and strong (around 6ft at least) - I need to feel physically overpowered. Dad bods over gym bods. I love gorgeous eyes but physical attraction is subjective, right? If we're attracted to each other, we'll know.

Intellectually: Highly intelligent. Got to be able to keep up with my references, debates, tangents, and match my puzzle-solving energy. 😉

Situationally:

• Must be a parent (involved, not weekend-only, otherwise we don't have the same values)
• Either UK-based or willing to travel here
• Close to my age (no significant gaps, so no, 28 or 55 is not going to 'be okay')
• NOT married/partnered

The Kink Side

I'm submissive-leaning (can occasionally and happily switch for the right person) with deep masochist needs. I need a true sadist, not bedroom-only. Someone who discusses torture and dinner plans in the same breath, or whispers it to me while we're out grocery shopping. Someone who has dark thoughts everyday and isn't afraid of them, because they're also a good person.

Love: CNC, anal, power play, orgasm control, bondage, serious impact play, specific humiliation (NOT body-shaming), extreme scenarios. Curious: Electro-play, watersports Hard limits: Vomit, scat, pet play

But I also need aftercare and genuine care. Beat me up, then cuddle me. CNC, then gaming together. I'm not into Daddy Doms, but I have a nurturing side too - my Irish genes make me want to feed people. 😂

The Balance

I need someone who gets that I'm both:

• The woman who needs serious pain and control
• The person who wants caring, equal partnership and laughter

And life's too serious not to find humour everywhere! I need someone who matches that energy.

Your Message:

If you genuinely hit ALL these criteria (not 70%, hoping I'll compromise), send a thoughtful message.

Auto-ignores:

• "Check out my ad" laziness
• "Hey" (has that EVER worked?)
• "I don't match but..." messages
• Copy-n-paste messages sent to everyone female on the subreddit
• Clearly skimmed responses

Still reading? I ramble on, but for the right person, that's part of the appeal. 😅