[21/M] In a 2 year relationship with [20/F] Giving her everything, but nothing in return?
Posted Sep 28, 2013, 11:05 PM UTC
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So this girl I've been with for 2 years started off great, but over the last year I've still been going strong and treating her with respect/love/good times, but I don't seem to be getting any of that in return. The problem is I love her too much to actually leave (I've tried) and not come crawling back. Been apart for a month or 2 now and I'm afraid of crawling back again. She already has plans for another guy but for reasons that would take too long to describe I'll save it if anyone asks. TL;DR In love with a girl, but she's not in love with me? How do I stay away and not come back to her?
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You need to find things to go. If you find yourself thinking about he that is fine. But when all you do is think about her that is not. I really suggest picking up some hobbies or hanging out with friends. Don't continue being the victim.
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I have stuff to do, it's just the area I'm in and the friends I have are hard to pull together all at once. With work and college and stuff, and although I don't mind being alone 80% of the time I still need that social interaction during the week, and there just isn't a way to do that with the people around here during the week. And I'm just not in the position to move to a more populated area you know? With time comes healing I guess
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Indian?
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This girl doesn't care about you. You're a good guy and I would let it go because she isn't respect you or the relationship you had with her. If she really cared about you she would not have plans to be with another guy. Seems like she was just using you. You do need to stay away from her. Get rid of old pictures, messages anything that may make you want to go back to her. Start thinking about yourself and what it is you want in your life. Go out with friends and treat yourself out. You will find another girl who will give you everything you need in return but don't rush into a relationship. Make sure you are ready and completely over her. I know this is hard but every time you think or feel like you want to get back to her remember all the pain and heartache you were in. A relationship takes two people giving 100 not one doing more than the other. I hope this was some help to you
Yeah, it's just more difficult because I know more about her than anyone else in the world and she wants me to stay for emotional support 'Because this other guy isn't into that stuff'. Today I basically told her 'You're fucked' and walked out for good, went out with friends all night and had a few drinks for fun.
I know it's difficult, the fact that she only wants you around for emotional support only shows she doesn't respect you emotionally. You don't deserve that and I hate seeing guys that are good go through pain. You will get through this
Thanks, it's already easier this time around anyway
It will be. Keep your head up and the right girl will come along! Trust me when I say there are girls in the world who need a guy like you so smile enjoy life and if you get into another relationship, I wish you the best! Always here for you (although I don't know you personally) I always have an ear you can talk too!