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I hear these words as well as see them written and I am perplexed by their actual meaning.

"Let me be honest" , " If I can be honest for a second" , "In all honesty" .

What does that mean? That you haven't been honest, prior to the declaration of being honest? Are you going to be honest for only this statement?

It seriously only makes me question your honesty. Declaring that you are honest? If that is needed to be said of yourself, then it makes me question your honesty. It means to me you do not want your honesty questioned. And that I should take your word as truth, in reality it only serves for me to question it.

I do not need a declaration of anyone's honesty. The truth speaks for itself. Being honest should be a part of who you are as a person.

There are other ways to say this that make it more plausible. Like, "If I am being honest with myself?" Or, "I would like to speak my truth." This leads the listener/reader to decide for themselves whether or not that truth applies to them.

I personally do not like having to question someone else's honesty, especially words. But when those phrases come into play, it only serves me to question how honest that person actually is.

I'm sure that I am not the only person that notices when they are used.

I tend to finish those sentences in my mind. With "I am a liar". Therefore making whatever follows to remain questionable by me.

So instead of declaring honesty, just be honest from the start. Give no reasons to have your honesty questioned, then there is no need to make a declaration of it.

Thank you for reading.