21/Female/ Karachi- Shadi culture that I think needs to change

Hello everyone !

( anyone who reads this post please pray that I get married to him, he is literally the best guy any girl can have)

I just want to rant here tbh. I’m done with my parents at this point and just wana move out. I am a 21F from Karachi. I fell in love with a man who was Punjabi. And told my mother about him. Now normally as per I know she was always chill about love marriages and said she supports it. So I thought she might not overreact and atleast consider him but it went opposite and she on the spot rejected him and said that we are urdu speaking and won’t let u get married to a Punjabi. I know this man for a while now and he is genuinely the sweetest guy I ever met. He was ready to send rishta and even talked to my mom on call. But she just said that even if he send proposal I will reject. She didn’t consider him for a sec and just rejected. I’m so disappointed because I once accepted a proposal because my parents liked the guy and tbh I didn’t like him and I cried and said them not to ruin my life but they tried convincing me ( not force) and somehow I agreed by thinking “ if they are so happy maybe there is something in this guy I cant see” and I accepted but anyway, due to some family issues that didn’t work.and now that I talked to her about a guy I like and he liked me too. She reacted so harshly! My father dunno about all this but he got to know he will react more harsh than my mother! I hate my parents at this point for this. I’ve been mentally tortured by my mother. She said me I’m characterless and started hitting herself so bad.

This was too much. It is my Islamic right to choose a man. I even said her to let him bring rishta and if you see genuinely anything wrong then u can reject and I won’t say anything but she didn’t listen for a sec and started crying so loud.

I’m just done at this point!