AIO & AITAH in this relationship?

I (22F) just dumped by bf (28M) of 1 year after months of neglect that was covered by the bare minimum- meeting me on his days off, taking me out to eat, sleepovers. It took the life out of me to do it because everytime I’d go crawling back to him because that’s how in love and attached I was to him. I was in every family gathering, every friend meet up & we did everything together. But I still felt neglected, because it was like I’m hanging out with a friend and not my boyfriend. He’s never affectionate with me, dismissive, hates physical touch, hates gifting- thinks buying flowers is a waste of money, made a big deal out of my birthday gift- a pandora bracelet charm, a Uniqlo tote bag and a top. He bought me my Coldplay tickets when they were in our city- but it came with a cost, no outings for a whole month and half because of how expensive it got, which I can completely understand at some point, although I offered to pay for my own ticket or even half.

Point is, I don’t get why my relationships fail on me. Everytime. Am I asking for too much attention? We barely talk through the week. We exchange maybe 5 messages each day, our usual good morning, when we get home or leaving work & if there’s an out of the ordinary update in our day, but otherwise that’s about it. But I feel like that’s fine by me because we’re both so busy. The real deal is when we are together, I really expect that we are more lovey dovey together, be like an actual couple in love, he never comes to hug me as soon as he sees me, I don’t get a kiss I don’t even get a decent hi. But he claims that’s how it is.

His friend took his gf of 5 years on a trip and I was like wow that’s so cool, I hope we’d go someday too, and his response was- “they’ve been in a relationship for 5 years, us, only 1”

His cousin, is going to Japan with her bf of 5 months, and he has nothing to say about that, if asked he will definitely come up with a justification for it as well.

When I meet him, and go hug him, he pushes me away with his elbow, or he makes an annoyed face at me, or just doesn’t even acknowledge my presence. He never looks for me, never sits with me, never runs his fingers through my hair, never just randomly strokes me, nor hold my hip when we walk, it’s like we’re so dead as a couple. He’s just so cold. He’s so monotone. We’ve talked before, had his sister explain to him about how he is towards me, he always has an explanation. “It’s raining, it pisses me off”, “I drove too long and there was too much traffic” And mind you, he does it everytime HE invites me to hangout. So I don’t know, sometimes I wonder if he’s gonna this bitter towards me, why even invite me?

I don’t know the right tag to give this attitude, I always call it rude and he said I’m not being rude to you

But through all of this he claims to love me.

Am I going crazy? Like am I overreacting, by trying to discuss the issues with him and I just get dismissed or get counterattacked with the things I did wrong or “you did this too” “you are like this too” And I’m constantly being compared to him. I keep having to remind him that I’m 6 years younger to him and that when he was 22, he was starting out too, but for whatever reason he thinks he’s better now, so he can’t really see me eye to eye. (He doesn’t have a house, he doesn’t have his own business- he claims he will open one soon, he doesn’t even have a proper functioning car ) so I don’t get why he’s so conceited and full of himself.

Thanks for reading this far, I’m sorry, I just had to partly vent and partly get a second opinion.