Partner

What are the signs that you notice with your partner that is not good during pregnancy?

I have some couple things in mind but i dont know if I overthink it or overreacting …

• Emotionally I am not stable, I dont know if its the hormones but I have been really tired, irritated and lack of patience. I couldnt control myself to feel emotional, annoyed and irritated. My partner would get mad and thinks I am starting an argument with him.
• We have a pet, I know its bad to clean my cats litter while pregnant as it is not safe. I have told my partner and asked if he can show initiative and clean up the litter but he always forget so I always end up doing it myself.
• Whenever we go grocery shopping he always insists to stay inside the car so I always go inside by myself. He helps me load and unload though
• At night I feel very uncomfortable, my lower abdomen feels uncomfortable like I am going through trapped gas, sore muscles so I asked him to give me a massage but he is too focus on his phone so I ended up just telling him to stop.
• I wake up out of nowhere in the middle of the night because I feel very nauseous and scared I wake him up to keep me company but he couldnt even keep his eye open so I feel bad and told him to sleep instead. (My cat stayed with me though watching me the whole time so i felt a little better)

Whenever I address him some things that bothers me he gets so defensive and wouldnt listen. And he would always say the things he do is “never enough for me”, when I always show my appreciation to him. I just tell him what I feel but it always end up being my fault for asking “too much”… Theres one night we had a big fight , that was atleast 3 weeks after I found out we are pregnant. I was bawling my eyes out from the words he was telling me like “I suck every energy he have” or “I am being unreasonable”

The fight BTW is when I told him I never received flowers from him, one of his excuses was he doesnt have “money” , when I have money I gave him my card to spend and I thought he would surprise me with flowers but he didnt.. I addressed him that and the outcome was the big fight, he told me I am impatient, I dont appreciate things or how I dont feel contented at all in life. I felt very unseen, I bawled my eyes out and cried while holding my stomach because I really dont know what to say at that point. I dont know if I was being too much or was I being too emotional. He kept saying why wont i go and find someone who could give me flowers because in his defence he said he will be here with me through the end so these flowers I have been asking shouldnt matter.

This is our second pregnancy, sadly the first one didnt work out for us. I had miscarriage, I was 8weeks when we found out it was a empty sac. I dont talk about it so much because I really dont want the talk to end up pointing fingers because I know it will end up like that. So I dont know what to do, am i being unreasonable?

He is a good guy, been with him for years, still the same as the first time I met him. He would drive and take me anywhere I want, give me things and buy me things when I ask. I have been noticing these things after we got married and I dont know if I am overthinking things.

I dont ask for a lot of things, I dont ask to buy me things thats expensive but I would want to feel good about getting surprised or being given to something I didnt ask for… I hoped he would think about things that I like and he would get it just to surprise me but I dont know why it doesnt happen…