I feel confused

I identify as a lesbian but I’ve been curious about dating men again. Back when I tried to date men in person I was going through a breakup at the time so my emotions were everywhere and I wasn’t in the right headspace. But I don’t want to do anything wrong like I’m scared that I’ll be with a man and then realize I’ve been gay all this time. Or if I get with a man all I’ll think about is women. Like with men I don’t want instant flirting or sexual talk as soon as we meet, I don’t want marriage, no sending nudes, I could be sexually attracted to a man if we have a connection but I don’t know about actual sex though. However, I see me being polyamorous and having male partners, I’ve pictured that for 2 years now.. I don’t know why it has stuck with me like this.