How normal was it in the past for women and children to be taken captive? How was it viewed?

I remember listening to a podcast about the Nabateans, and the narrator went over how the Greeks violently invaded their land and just casually mentioned that they seized all Nabatean women and their children while their men weren’t in town. Then the men came back to find their families completely gone. I just had so many questions…

In cases like this, of course men will retaliate, but what if they aren’t successful? They just die virgins? Stay lonely and humiliated without any family for the rest of their lives? I mean, did they even have emotional attachments to their wives/kids in the first place?

It’s crazy to me that this practice continued on for thousands of years..