What a 💩show

To summarize, my mom asked me for food today, which I offered to pay. As we waited for delivery, I asked her about a type of debit card related to FSA/ HSA. She used to be a home health aide and I'm working as one part time. She knows that a portion of my salary can be taken and added to this debit card. It'll save me money on taxes and I can use it for things like train fare and medication. Here's where it gets good and by good I mean annoying.

I told her there's an $8 per month maintenance fee for the card. She kept insisting there wasn't and got upset. She yelled and I got a bit upset. Later on, she told me that she knew there's a maintenance fee on the card and that the argument was my fault because she was talking about the home health aide license. I never mentioned the license! That came out of nowhere! She kept yelling at me and I just left. My grandma followed me with a lecture saying I should respect my mom and tbh my mom doesn't even respect my grandmother. She makes fun of her and insults my grandma all the time. She called her stupid, forgetful, annoying, useless etc. She made her cry countless times and that hurts me because my grandma is very sweet. I don't know why my grandma defends her. Anyway my grandma wanted us to stop arguing so I said that's fine I'm not holding any grudges, if she wants to talk, she can call me.

My mom didn't call instead my grandmother called me with an excuse from her. "Next time you come, say sorry to your mom."

I told her we can talk it out and apologize to each other. I said I was sorry for arguing even though I didn't raise my voice from the get go. My grandma explained the situation to my mom but she refused to get on the phone. She never admits when she's wrong. She's set in her ways. She didn't talk to my brother for more than 6 months when all he told her was to be nicer to Grandma, to which she blew the entire thing out of proportion. She's not going to talk to me unless I initiate. She holds grudges and calls me a bad son all the time. It hurts because I literally went out of my way to get her food. I was excited to see everyone, but each time that excitement fades after just a few minutes with my mom. My life would be more peaceful I if cut contact