AITAH for not wanting to drive anymore?

hi! throwing this on here because i'm feeling weird about it and could use some outside perspective.

for context: i drive for work. i usually make 3–4 trips a day (warehouse, whatever property i'm working on that day, and commuting home) i also have evening extracurriculars during the week. by the end of the week i'm often exhausted, but i still want to do things i enjoy. it's usually less draining if i do them alone, but if i want friends to come with me i usually have to be the driver.

one of my friends doesn't have a car and the other either can't or doesn't know how to drive in the city. in the past i've always just been the one to drive, because my will to have fun outweighed the hassle. lately it feels like a chore though, like i'm burning out from being the default driver. now when they ask me to drive i sometimes say no, or i'm less enthusiastic about planning around their lack of transport - i start feeling dread honestly. but its so disorienting because i do want to see them, i just dont want to put in the labor to do it. and that makes me feel selfish and guilty because i've always been "the one who drives" and i don't want to let people down, but i'm also tired of feeling like my free time is logistics for everyone else.

so, aita for not wanting to drive or pickup friends / for saying no more often? or is it reasonable? any advice on how to say no without feeling terrible would also be appreciated😭

Posted Sep 14, 2025, 12:38 AM UTC

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