Wisconsin F with tips to help the men.

I see so many posts asking if there are any "real women actually in these groups". Short answer is yes, but you don't find them for a few reasons. I've been a Hotwife for a while, so let me offer help to those struggling (mostly because I'm sick of the question asking if real women still exist🤣😂)

1. Send an eye catching DM. If a woman posts anything, she will have 100+ DMs within a day. Most men, especially young men, only send "hi" or "wanna fuck" or "I want a BJ". The only women replying to that are content sellers. Send a message stating your age, location, status, likes, dislikes, what you're looking for, what your ideal situation would be, and a picture is always a huge bonus.

2. Fake pictures are easy to spot. Also put effort into a decent picture. You behind a stained mirror that hasn't been washed in 10 years is not sexy. You at work in sweaty, dirt/grease stained clothes, you just rolling out of bed, that all shows low effort.

3. Show interest in what she wants, or any rules she may have. Have an actual conversation on what both people are looking for. Just saying you wanna fuck doesn't get you anywhere. Everyone likes to fuck. We know that already.

4. Remember, most men on Reddit are fake as well. Most are probably kids and that's gross, so she needs reassuring she is talking to someone real.

5. This is for the young guys. Most women prefer older. So you already have a disadvantage. Talking big and arrogant like your the best ever at sex is a turn off. A man who has been doing it for 40-50 years will be doing things you haven't even learned about yet. That's ok. Do not try to overcompensate. There is a reason we love those older dad bods, they can rock our worlds!!

6. Most women do not want a one night stand unless they are selling. So with that said, it's still a turn on to treat your FWB special or good. A nice dinner or a movie date can be amazing. BUT most women need discretion, and men too. So understand that situation. Instead of $50-$100 on a date, offer to pitch in on lingerie or toys, something to make the experience even more exciting for both. Women spend a ton of money on making playtime hot for you guys! Waxing, laser hair removal, lingerie, toys, manicures and pedicures, and the long list of personal hygiene products for keeping that pussy fresh. I can't speak for all women, but my laser hair removal alone was over $5k, and probably have another $2k in lingerie and toys. So if it's a discreet meet and you can't do dates, pitch in on the long list of things she does to enhance your time together. (NO, I am not advocating for paying for sex, or prostitution) Show you are just as invested in making the dates more exciting and fun. Women like effort and investment into the situation.

7. This is more to help make Reddit better. An app with no verification process will always be full of fakes. Do your part on calling them out. Moderators do your part on weeding them out. We will never eliminate them all, but if we work together we can make a difference.

I truly hope this helps some men out there. And that in turn will help the women. It's an amazing lifestyle and everyone should be able to enjoy! Good luck everyone.