I just had a friend end our friendship, and need some love.

She said: “I don’t want to be friends anymore. I’ve been thinking about this a lot and I’m just exhausted by our relationship. There is no one to really blame, I just feel like this friendship has gotten codependent and unhealthy. I’ve let things slide over time that I realize I am not comfortable with, and they’ve just built up. I don’t really want to talk about it, and I don’t feel any ill will towards you and I respect you. I dont plan making anything awkward in class or in person, I just ask that you do not contact me on a personal level anymore.”

I said: “Okay, I will absolutely respect that. No contact from here on out. No ill will here either, and no pressure, but the door will be open. Thank you.”

We dated from last September to last December, and have remained friends since. I had a feeling this was coming. I absolutely wasn’t interested in her romantically anymore, but losing a friend is still hard! I honestly think I’m more upset about the possible implications this has on my other friendships than I am about losing the one with her. I’m kind of the same with everyone, and this isn’t the first time this has happened to me, so I’m clearly the common denominator. I have a lot to work on.

Anything you have to offer would be lovely, but please don’t be too blunt.