How to make women uncontrollably attracted to you

Meant for men of reddit, I (29F) have been sort of mulling over these weird feelings I've been having lately for certain men in my life who quite literally wriggled their way into (my loins') thoughts without being detected on my radar as a possible mate or even an interest of mine and through therapy, I've been talking out how they did it.

There are a few men in my office and in my friend group outside of work (all new people to me) who have rubbed me the right way, and I suppose I just wanted to share in case anyone wanted to hear the trick from the horses's mouth.

Spoiler alert, it's pretty basic, making women feel safe & respected gets you healed & matured poontang but maybe won't attract the crazy but good stuff yall should've been-there-done-that with by now. That was the old me before therapy, self reflection, major lifestyle & behavior changes, and understanding the importance of discipline. Now I'm 29, live alone in a nice place, no kids, took my uterus out for unlimited trying to get pregnant, no divorces, have a perfectly behaved girl dog for company, employed full time, side gig for passive income, drive & maintain my own vehicle, recovered credit score, take financial responsibility seriously, accountability seriously, and am very laid back. I have my own hobbies, no drama with my friends, workout in my apartment's gym, take care of myself and make myself happy. I enjoy sleeping with my friends with no strings attached, and not feeling like I'll ever be into marriage, though I may end up marrying if me and a super cool friend want to do something like that later. I also prioritize humor in my friendships, because all I want to do is laugh and make love with everyone that wants to do the same back with me. Also into a shitton of messed up kinks and have been craving bdsm scenes like crack lately.

If someone like me sounds similar to the kind of woman what you're looking for, I recommend trying the below.

Here's what they're doing that makes my under-demon scream for them without giving me any logical reason as to why I want them so badly:

-First and foremost I've gotten to know them over the course of several months, I'd say this started to kick in for me after about 6-7 months of knowing them. This helped me learn who they really were, which made me lower my normal defenses with strangers (obviously) and get to know them as a person.

-These men have completely ignored me as a sexual or romantic object entirely, some are only a couple years older than me, some are 10 years older. They give me zero indication they would ever be into that. (This lead to me coming around and uncovering my piqued interest to them only to find out 2 of them were doing this intentionally with this being the intended result, both of them are interested but let me be the one to come to them first, even though it took months.) This made my space feel respected, and like I was less of an object or a goal to smash. They didn't chase, and I actually ended up coming to them like they'd wanted.

-Before I knew they like-liked me, they displayed a fairness and fearlessness to check people that were out of line with me or others; if anyone was rude, these guys checked them. They did not tolerate misogyny, bullying, or any other shitty thing in their presence but absolutely did not give the overly machismo vibe that always dries me up. They weren't doing the alpha male act, they are generally easygoing, inclusive, soft, kind, especially with us girls in the group/office, and even with other men, but absolutely do not tolerate shittiness in their midst. They are however sociable and are normally the guy talking to everyone, and everyone always wants to talk to them. So they aren't the quiet guy per say, if that means anything. Seeing the softness every day and feeling their support against other men that were acting disrespectful really did it for me. I didn't know they had that in them until those situations were presented. This makes them seem like they hold positions of authority, even if they actually don't in the workplace or friend group. Please note that they are not overly protective, more often than not they let me take care of myself, and have commented here or there that I'm a strong confident woman when talking about my interactions with other men, and never act like they have some sort of claim on me. They let me do me but step in when it seems right.

-Lastly, small gentlemanly acts. Nothing major, just the basics: they hold doors for me, let me go first, listen to me with their full attention. I had one guy walk with me without me having to ask when I was possibly walking out to a dangerous situation with my dog outside until I could get to my car. He didn't offer to come with me, he did it without question. This made me feel safe. Although, they have not done anything to make me feel special; no gifts, no special attention, no hanging around my office or only talking to me at get togethers.

It was only after I felt a growing, intense tension between us did I start to flirt a little and give them my special attention, or with one guy just straight up ask if he was dtf that I realized they had played the long game on me and I wasn't even mad. I've loved this experience, and seriously respect these men.

I'm not sure if this is the norm with me breaking into a new age bracket and this is typically 33-50 yr old men behavior or if these have just been exceptional experiences, but I wanted to share with anyone else that might be looking to make some panties drop.

Please know that if doing any of these things pissed off or weirded out women around you, it probably wasn't a you problem and you probably dodged a bullet. Please don't lose faith in the power of making a woman feel safe and respected. The right women will come running to you if this is your vibe.